Episode 39

The Lies We Tell Ourselves in Relationships That Should Have Been a One-Night Stand

🎙️ Episode 39: The Lies We Tell Ourselves in Relationships That Should Have Been a One-Night Stand

Podcast: The Trigger and The Truth

Host: Tina White

Series: Mental Health Matters

📝 Episode Summary:

21 Questions to Check If You’re Holding On to Something That’s Holding You Back

Some relationships were never meant to make it past sunrise — but somehow, here you are, years in, emotionally drained, rewriting history in your head, and calling it love.

In this episode of The Trigger and The Truth, Tina White takes you through 21 hard, candid, and eye-opening questions to help you see whether you’re holding on to a relationship that’s been holding you back. We’re getting honest about the lies we tell ourselves to justify staying, the red flags we try to manage instead of address, and why the longer you ignore the truth, the more expensive it becomes — emotionally, mentally, and sometimes financially.

You’ll hear:

Why “casual” can quietly turn into “complicated”

How ignoring early deal-breakers sets the stage for years of frustration

The real-life story of a relationship that lasted far longer than it should have — and the moment Tina knew it was over

The 21-Question Self-Diagnostic to see if you’re living in a relationship that should have ended long ago

The difference between giving grace and giving away your peace

💡 Truth to remember: Not everyone deserves the deluxe package. Stop upgrading people who were never supposed to stay the night.

This is just Part One. In Part Two: Sir, You’re Not On My Payroll – Entitled Energy is Expensive, Tina dives deeper into one specific story from this episode — a moment when casual dating collided with financial entitlement, insecurity, and the audacity to try and cash in on someone else’s hustle. You don’t want to miss it.


🎧 Part Two Dropping on Wednesday 8/13/2025 Stay Tuned!


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Tina White

Tina White is a truthteller, trauma disruptor, and the unapologetic voice behind The Trigger and The Truth podcast—a healing platform where pain meets purpose and storytelling becomes therapy. A native of South Jamaica, Queens, Tina brings over two decades of lived and professional experience navigating complex relationships, systemic grief, generational trauma, and emotional survival.

Her own journey—through loss, poverty, sexual assault, fractured family ties, and the residual impact of the crack era—fuels her commitment to helping others find clarity and healing. With deep roots in community advocacy, mental wellness, and transformation, Tina creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests and listeners alike can unpack emotional triggers and uncover the truths buried beneath them.

As the founder of several wellness and justice-centered initiatives, Tina is more than a podcast host—she’s a cultural voice for the unheard, a catalyst for deep healing, and a mentor for those finally ready to face their past and reclaim their peace.

Whether she’s guiding a raw conversation on grief, interviewing a mental health expert, or dropping therapeutic gems solo, Tina shows up fully—real, rooted, and ready to break generational cycles with truth and tenderness.