Episode 8

The Avoidant: When Silence Speaks Louder Than Words

🎙️ Title: The Avoidant: When Silence Speaks Louder Than Words

👤 Host: Tina White

📡 Podcast: The Trigger and The Truth

Have you ever been in a relationship where every conflict felt like a dead end? Conversations go unspoken, emotions get buried, and silence becomes the loudest language? You may be in a relationship with an Avoidant.

In this episode, Tina White uncovers the emotional weight of navigating relationships with avoidant partners—whether romantic, familial, or even professional. Avoidant behaviors can be subtle but deeply damaging, especially when one person craves connection and the other retreats into silence.

This episode is a reality check and a roadmap. If you’ve ever been gaslit, ghosted, or guilt-tripped into silence, this conversation is your breakthrough.

I open up about my own journey as an avoidant. From keeping people at a distance to struggling with vulnerability, I share how I discovered this coping mechanism was rooted in past pain—and how therapy helped me begin the process of healing, connection, and conscious change.

This one’s personal. But it’s also universal. Because avoidance might look like silence, but it’s often the result of stories we never learned how to tell.

💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

What avoidant attachment looks like in personal and professional relationships

The emotional roots behind avoidance and the fears it protects

How avoidance creates disconnection, even when we crave closeness

Practical tools I’m using from therapy to stay present and engaged

Ways to begin healing when avoidance is your default setting

đź”— Resources Mentioned:

Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

The Trigger and The Truth 21 Day Emotional Mastery Workbook and Journal (Coming Soon)

TherapyforBlackGirls.com / TherapyforBlackMen.org

đź—Ł Join the Conversation:

Have you ever noticed avoidant patterns in yourself or someone close to you? What helped you move through them?

Tag @TheTriggerAndTheTruth and use #TheAvoidantTruth to share your story or DM me—let’s talk about it.

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🛑 Your past may explain it, but it doesn’t have to define it. Healing starts when we stop avoiding the truth.

About the Podcast

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Tina White

Tina White is a truthteller, trauma disruptor, and the unapologetic voice behind The Trigger and The Truth podcast—a healing platform where pain meets purpose and storytelling becomes therapy. A native of South Jamaica, Queens, Tina brings over two decades of lived and professional experience navigating complex relationships, systemic grief, generational trauma, and emotional survival.

Her own journey—through loss, poverty, sexual assault, fractured family ties, and the residual impact of the crack era—fuels her commitment to helping others find clarity and healing. With deep roots in community advocacy, mental wellness, and transformation, Tina creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests and listeners alike can unpack emotional triggers and uncover the truths buried beneath them.

As the founder of several wellness and justice-centered initiatives, Tina is more than a podcast host—she’s a cultural voice for the unheard, a catalyst for deep healing, and a mentor for those finally ready to face their past and reclaim their peace.

Whether she’s guiding a raw conversation on grief, interviewing a mental health expert, or dropping therapeutic gems solo, Tina shows up fully—real, rooted, and ready to break generational cycles with truth and tenderness.