Episode 26

DARVO in Real Life: The Power of Truth Part 4: Leading From the Scar, Not the Wound

🎙️ Episode 26 -DARVO in Real Life: The Power of Truth Part 4: Leading From the Scar, Not the Wound

July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

🎧Part 4 of 4: “Leading From The Scar”

Overview:

"Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. I’m your host, Tina White—and today, we wrap up the DARVO in Real Life series with the part most people never get to:

Reclaiming your truth.

Leading your life and business not from your pain, but from your power.

Because survival is only the first step. Reclaiming your voice—that’s where the freedom is."

PART 1: SURVIVAL IS NOT THE END OF THE STORY

"I survived betrayal. I survived denial. I survived public lies and private heartbreak.
But survival isn’t the end goal. It’s the starting line.
I didn’t go through all that to stay small, bitter, or broken.
I went through it so I could lead from a place of clarity and truth—and help somebody else realize they’re not crazy, they’re not alone, and they’re not what happened to them."

PART 2: DARVO SURVIVORS—WHAT YOU NEED TO HEAR

"If you’ve ever been gaslit, smeared, or silenced, let me say this to you plain:
  • You are not the villain in your survival story.
  • Their denial does not cancel your reality.
  • Their silence does not erase your healing.
You do not need their permission to heal.
You do not need their confession to move forward.
Your truth is enough.
You are enough."

PART 3: LEADING FROM THE SCAR, NOT THE WOUND

"For a long time, I led from my wound.
I was hurt and angry—and every business decision, every relationship, every risk was filtered through that pain.
But healing taught me this:
Your scar is where the light gets in.
I started making decisions from a healed place:
  • Protecting my peace like it was profit.
  • Choosing partnerships that honored my truth.
  • Walking away from spaces where my story had to be silenced to be accepted.

PART 4: THE BUSINESS OF TRUTH-TELLING

"And let’s talk business for a second—because your mental health isn’t separate from your success.
When you build from your truth:
  • You attract aligned clients.
  • You set clear boundaries.
  • You stop wasting energy managing other people’s projections.
Truth-telling is not just healing. It’s strategy."

PART 5: THE POWER OF YOUR STORY

"The truth is—your story isn’t just yours.
Someone else is waiting on your courage to tell it.
Because when you speak it out loud, you give permission for someone else to release their shame.
I’m not here because my story is perfect.
I’m here because I survived it.
And you can too."

PART 6: UPLIFTING TAKEAWAY – THE TRUTH OUTLASTS THE LIE

"So, here’s your reminder:
The lie may be loud.
The smear campaign may be convincing.
The silence from the people you thought would stand with you may feel deafening.
But your truth will outlast all of it.
Keep building. Keep healing. Keep speaking.
Because what they denied doesn’t define you.
What you rebuilt in spite of them—that’s your legacy."


"Thank you for walking through this series with me.

If you’ve found yourself in my story, know that this is just the beginning of your next chapter.

Stay connected, keep protecting your peace, and remember this:

You are not what they did to you.

You are what you do next.

This has been The Trigger and The Truth. I’m Tina White. Until next time—keep walking in your truth, unapologetically."

🎧 Listen now: Leading From the Scar, Not the Wound

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About the Podcast

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About your host

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Tina White

Tina White is a truthteller, trauma disruptor, and the unapologetic voice behind The Trigger and The Truth podcast—a healing platform where pain meets purpose and storytelling becomes therapy. A native of South Jamaica, Queens, Tina brings over two decades of lived and professional experience navigating complex relationships, systemic grief, generational trauma, and emotional survival.

Her own journey—through loss, poverty, sexual assault, fractured family ties, and the residual impact of the crack era—fuels her commitment to helping others find clarity and healing. With deep roots in community advocacy, mental wellness, and transformation, Tina creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests and listeners alike can unpack emotional triggers and uncover the truths buried beneath them.

As the founder of several wellness and justice-centered initiatives, Tina is more than a podcast host—she’s a cultural voice for the unheard, a catalyst for deep healing, and a mentor for those finally ready to face their past and reclaim their peace.

Whether she’s guiding a raw conversation on grief, interviewing a mental health expert, or dropping therapeutic gems solo, Tina shows up fully—real, rooted, and ready to break generational cycles with truth and tenderness.